Your Loss Is Your Gain

          This post is inspired by the ideas that formed a cocktail in my mind and stayed there for a really long time until today when I finally thought of giving it some shape. This post is a long time due. Not that I never made up my mind to write about but I always felt it was incomplete. But today I felt it was a bit okay if not perfect. So here it is.  

          I am sure that all of us have heard and agree with "change is the only constant". This is not a debate that argues otherwise but an effort to substantiate it through my experience. I have changed a lot in a very less time considering my reluctance to sudden change around me. There is a drastic change in my personality, like and dislikes, priorities and preferences, opinions, emotions etc. I changed from a person who never ordered anything that she didn't know about in a restaurant to someone who did not hesitate to try '5 spice duck' in a Thai restaurant, which by the way I loved. This change was possible because I resigned the introvert in me and put the carefree alter ego to work, only because Bharath asked me to do it. 

          There is a dialogue in the entertainment world that, "if a person really loves you, he should accept you without changing who you are". I am sure most of you agree with it. I strongly believed till I realized how Bharath always encourages me to change and I am really enjoying the new me. He always advocates that I try something new, especially if he enjoys doing it. It is okay if someone tries to change you, especially if it for your own good and if you are really missing something in life that you can otherwise experience. When you keep yourself in a changing pace continuously, why do you think it is bad for someone who loves you to change you if it is for your own benefit? I say you should always listen to your mind and not ego. 

          We are open to change if it benefits us. But do we welcome the change with open hands if it is for others? Why is it difficult to change if it is not self-provoked? I am not implying that you need to turn ourselves around for Someone. Also that Someone has to come halfway along if you are ready to take that path. That is how a relationship is built. Sometimes you might be skeptical if the other person is really ready to walk the way with you. But it is not up to you to control the other person. It is in your hand to take the first step and show that you are willing to change and solve the same riddle in that Someone's mind. At least you will know if it was really worth your time or not. It is okay to lose and show the special Someone that you are ready to lose but only till you are respected for that. Relationships can have different course of events if you believe "it is okay to lose". You don't have to change if it's not what you want but there is no harm in trying it, even if it is for Someone else. Relationships are about striking the balance and it is okay if you are the one to start compromising. 

          I have made legion of decisions that registered my destiny to where I stand today. Although I don't regret a good number of those, given a chance I would love to go back and do certain thing that I did a bit differently. I would have been a physicist and not an engineer if I can go back to "the 17 years old stop" of the time machine or I would have fought a little with my besties at "the 14 years old stop" or may not have chosen to go to hostel at "the 11 years old stop". Having said all these, I am proud to be an engineer, having fought with my besties and totally enjoyed the hostel life. Either ways, you can't change the past but can correct the future but making amends necessary.  

          It is no secret that we all change with time. We moved from pencils to pens, half-ticket to full-ticket, bicycles to bikes and then to cars, schools to colleges, cereals to oats, casuals to formals, desktops to laptops, handheld video games to Xbox, bedroom to master bedroom, zircon to diamond, being comfy on flats to wearing only heels and so on. But be the change that makes you happy and the ones that make your life less aggravated. It is okay to change for others and change others but for better.