Rule Book...!!

Rules, as we know are set of pillars virtual pillars that balance everything around us. Whole universe is governed by rules. Everything, from the heliocentric theory to the way we ingest the food is predominated by rules. Be it formulated and compelled to be strictly observed or tacit, we follow rules in everything we do.

Now a small kid knows the adage “rules are meant to be broken” even before he even acquires the intellectual ability to understand the meaning of “RULE”. So I don’t want to repeat it over and over again. It is not the formal rule book that abode in schools, library, holy places or any sort of game I am talking here, which has to strictly observed. By “Rule book” here, I mean the tacit rules that exist between friends, couples, parent and a kid, and between an individual and his acquaintance. The rules we believe we have framed by default and expect others to accord with it. However the amount of expectation may depend on how much we are into that person. But we respect them and never take it for a toss for we care for them.

 Among friends, especially among girls, the clauses in the rule book go as many as stars visible on a new moon night. May be like sharing the news about the apparels, accessories, shoe etc that one buys in her recent shopping; latest crushes; hook-ups; break-ups; wishing on birthday, new years, festivals etc; if not the entire experience, sharing the mere information about the newly visited place and the list goes on and on. Sometimes if anyone of the rule is broken, it might hither the friendship to some other corner, although the consequence might depend on how one sees it and the depth of the friendship. Others might find these really silly, but can they possibly understand what actually is among friends?

  Certain rules among a parent and a child are well defined. This set of rules, when violated, makes us feel guilty like more than anything. Even though we know that, sometimes we tend to surpass them. Can we justify why we do that? Possibly we can and the reason can be silly, impractical or because we feel that is the only way left. Violating may sometimes be justified (be right or wrong), but hiding this act form our close associates is what makes it more severe. We may think that it’s better to keep others incognizant about the situation, but oblivion should never be a way to live.

   Rule book can be the best when we don’t want others to meddle into our lives. It’s all how we look into it. But giving others a chance before we add another clause into the book is worth it, especially we it’s against the ones who mean a lot to us. Sometimes it’s better to let go the rule book when a friend hides something from you, since if he had really felt it that way, he wouldn't have ignored the rule book in the first place. It’s better to stick on to the rule book when it is involved in making people around us happy. Sometimes when stepping out of the rule book is the only way, as we see it, it might be okay to let go. But the way we project our views onto others creates the difference. This applies to every aspect of life.

   We live in a society whose tacit or framed rules exits since ages and the consequences of trying to change or violate them has always cost a lot to for the men who tried (even if they were right, like Nicholas Copernicus). But fighting for what is right is different from arguing we are right. If listening to others can make them happy, it’s worth trying. Because I believe “KEEP OTHERS HAPPY, THAT IS THE WAY TO BE HAPPY”.